Self Awareness is the process of becoming fully conscious; it is the state of “being in control” of feeling connected with your self, i.e. your body, mind and your emotions.  Awareness is also being consciously aware of your own behaviour. When you notice your own  behaviour with mindfulness you bring yourself into awareness. When you are mindfully aware of your behaviours you are able to choose how you want to react.

We are all powerful creators of our own reality without  being conscious of  it. You are creating your own reality right now with your inner dialogue, your own thoughts! Learning to develop your self awareness means that you can stop creating what you don’t want in your life and start to create what it is that you do want. Emotional healing is part of that process.

Unattachment: The act of attaching or the condition of being attached to an outcome. If you let go of the outcome of how things turn out you will not be bound to the end result, you will be letting go of the outcome. When you mentally let go you are saying to the universe that you trust the outcome will be the right one. If you are attached to the outcome of a situation or event you will be living in the future rather than in the present time.

Peace: If you relax and are mentally present within the moment you create the calmness that precedes the state of peace. You experience the state of just being  a human being, just ‘being’!

The most basic and self-healing energy you can gift yourself is self-nurturing.  Taking time to self-nurture your self creates a more effective you! Looking after your own needs by way of relaxing is not just a treat it’s way of life that everyone around you accepts. Self-nurturing is necessary for your physical, mental and emotional health and well-being. If you respect yourself and your time and set personal boundaries on what you do for others, they will value your time and treat you with the respect that comes with you valuing your self.

• Has busyness has taken over your life?

• How often do you focus on you?

• Are you putting your own needs on hold?

• Would you like to develop your self-awareness?

If so sign up for your free day 10 self nurturing tips in the form above.  Take time to practice these self nurturing tips and techniques and  you will feel more energised, centered, relaxed and more in control.

Our parental and social conditioning together with events and past experiences have a major factor in how we think, feel, behave and how we perceive our world.   Our negative thought patterns can be so deeply established that they continue to provide the energies that feed our problems keeping them alive. Emotional intelligence, self awareness, and emotional healing can be learned from stepping onto the path of self development.

The good thing is we always have choice, which goes two ways.  We can operate from the surface ego mind, or the deeper levels of mind.  Fear-based emotions have a nasty habit of feeding our ego mind, whilst all love-based emotions feed our spirit. Being more spiritually based has the effect of holistic healing, which overcomes the ego.  This allows us to enter into a whole new energy where we can flow within our world in balance and harmony within ourselves, and be more in harmony with others. Learning to self nurture or self soothe enables you to be emotionally independent, which means you are not relying on someone else for your happiness.

Each of us has a beautiful light within, but this light gets suppressed by our ego  so stays in a state of sleep or hibernation. This is the result of constantly feeding the ego, and not recognizing our beautiful spirit within. Unfortunately negative thought patterns and behaviour are so debilitating, and highly destructive to relationships. If you have feelings of low self esteem and low self worth  or feel inadequate or unworthy it means you are functioning from the emotional lower mental plains. You are so much more than this.

Each of us is responsible for our own emotional happiness but so often we put our life and emotions into the hands of another, we give our power away.  It is so important in life and love to make the body mind-shift from what you believe is your reality to understanding that you are unwittingly co-creating, and this can be one the first steps to changing your life and your relationship for the better. With a little self help you can so easily raised yourself to a position self-empowerment, you can so easily start to rule your own personal world, and your love relationship. This ability is right there within you. It’s your birthright!

Remember, wherever you find yourself right now you can change, there is nothing to stop you; it’s just a matter of choice.  Once you decide you can move forward, and  start to emotionally heal. So ask your self right now, is it time to wake up and create a different reality?

So rather than have the belief that you can’t , it would be far more effective to start now to believe that you can. So focus on what you want, accept no limitations. Remember, it is not your job to change anyone other than yourself.  As you start this personal development process the positive effects will ripple out around you affecting how other people perceive you.

This will create amazing changes in the way the people around you respond to you. When you behave differently, others treat you differently. The consequences are, you will experience a different reality.

I am offering you free my 10 day Self Nurturing Program. Everyday you will receive positive tips and techniques. Put them into practice daily and you will undoubtedly find that your conscious self awareness will improve and you will begin to feel more emotional independent and emotionally stable as each day passes.

You will receive your your free self nurturing tips and techniques the day after you signed up.

Light Abound….

The problem being Sofia ‘needed’ Tom to make her feel happy. Sofia was emotionally dependent on Tom, which played out during the day as continuous text messages and phone calls with one crisis after another. As soon as Tom walked through the door up would come Sofia’s dependency feelings. The only way she knew how to cope with her feelings was to demand nurturing and comforting from him.

Sofia was unable to take emotional responsibility for her self. She had been conditioned into believing that her happiness, which included her self worth and self-confidence, had to come from someone else. When she felt this inner lacking she would feel insecure, miserable and then blame Tom.

After a couple of therapy sessions, Sofia came to the realization and understanding that the feelings she experienced were feelings she had suppressed when she was a small child. Although Sofia had a loving family upbringing she felt she was ‘sent away’ to boarding school at a young age, which she related now to feelings of abandonment.

Sofia internalized the unpleasant feelings as she did not understand them and being so young was unable to cope with them. Later the suppressed feeling were projected onto a number of partners, and now her husband. Tom represented, on an unconscious level, the adult that could take care of her emotional needs.

What she now believed to be abandonment by Tom was a reflection of the feelings she had experienced as a child after being left at boarding school. It was Sofia’s inner self-abandonment issue that was causing her problems. A part of Sofia had never progressed beyond the small child. She has not learnt to nurture herself in a loving way.

Her internal dialogue was directed inwards at judging herself, beating herself up and then expecting Tom to take care of her. The moment he walked out of the door in the morning up would come the old feelings of abandonment. Unfortunately she had established comforting behaviours that involved food and shopping.

Sofia was emotionally dependent on Tom and that energy was draining for both of them. (Maintaining an emotional conflict takes around 40% of your energy). When Sofia felt Tom was ignoring her she would immediately fall into victim child behaviour that always ended with Tom walking out, leaving her in tears. What Sofia needed was to feel loved by Tom. This conditioned behaviour resulted in Sofia’s inability to give love to herself or her husband in a healthy psychological way.

Emotional Independence

We experience emotional independence when we take responsibility our feelings and are able to nurture and love ourselves. We can achieve this when we stop letting our feelings to overwhelm us, learn how to look after ourselves in a loving way and start to recognize and listen to our own intuition.

It is not until we feel in control of our feelings that we realize the need to acknowledge and own how we feel, and not project our past wounds onto our partner looking for emotional reassurance. Whether it is a good day or a bad day take responsibility for how you feel and take care of yourself by acknowledging negative feelings when they surface, knowing that you are in complete control of how you decide to react in any situation.

People who come to see me are normally on the ‘effects’ side of life, something is affecting them. People either cause something to happen to them, or they allow something to effect them. Very rarely do people coming to see me take responsibility for their part of the cause of their problem. However, when we  are on the cause side of life we will feel in control, you choose how you want to feel, and how you want to react.

Unfortunately when someone literally neglects their own emotional well-being and unconsciously makes their partner responsible for their feelings of emotional hurt, the relationship can never be balanced. The self-hypnosis audio Beyond Emotional Dependency is for people who are experiencing relationship imbalance.

Emotional independence means emotional freedom, which is the ability to become consciously aware of our own needs within our relationship. It is about being consciously aware and recognizing when our behaviour is a projection of immature emotions. Happiness is a state of mind, to prove this correct just remember a truly happy time in your life and notice how you feel.

Sarah Chambers D.C.H.P.

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Have you ever wondered why people have love relationship problems? Whatever relationship issues you may have, whether you are single, dating, or married, I offer you a different way of thinking about yourself and your relationship(s).  Would you like to create a loving and lasting relationship, that you deserve?  With a deeper understanding of the issues that surface when the  love bubble bursts you can heal the  emotional issues that sabotage your chances of lasting happiness. Healing troubled relationships starts with healing yourself. Whatever issues or problems you are experiencing  within your relationship help is here.

Would you like to:

• Save your marriage
• Create a loving, lasting, and better relationship
• Heal the emotional baggage from the past
• Have a healthy relationship
• Create a new you

This self hypnosis healing therapy audio will help you to….

• Stop the negative patterns that sabotage your relationship
• Start to recognize the reoccurring negative patterns, responses and behaviours that have been sabotaging your relationships
• Make the choice to step off the Ferris wheel of emotional turmoil and step into a loving and lasting relationship.

Whether you are looking for a partner or have already made your choice it will help you to clarify your beliefs and values, enabling you to make the right changes within yourself that may be required to attract into your life, the love that you want and deserve.

This recording will, at the very least, help you to start the process of balancing your emotions. You can make the inner changes that are necessary for the illusion of love to become a real understanding of true love, easily and effortlessly.

Sarah Chambers D.C.H.P.

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